Focusing on the small side of relationship. It is all too easy for our attention to become obsessed with some overblown soap opera. Handle your relationships in a way you will remember well on your deathbed. If you are emotionally entangled, then ask yourself the question: "When have I felt this before?" If you are honest with yourself you will almost certainly recall having the same sort of feelings in previous circumstances. Instead of attributing the feelings to the particular, current situation recognize that outside events are merely triggers for classic internal patterns of emotional reactivity, which ar inevitably stirred up by something. How much will the present difficulty matter in 100 years?
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